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Explaining Love in Words
Love is...patient and kind. How can we say we love someone if we get easily frustrated and treat them with disrespect?
Love is...rejoicing in the truth. Is it possible to love someone and deliberately lie to them? Love is...bearing all things. That means putting up with each other's faults. No one is perfect. Love is...believing all things. It doesn't mean we have doubt about someone. We should be able to take what someone says at face value.
It is trust. Love is...hopeful in all things. It's knowing that everything will work out for the best. Love is...enduring. That means it puts up with the little things that drive us crazy. Love is...never failing. Love is real when it can stand up to all these things. It looks for the best in others and brings these things out.

True love can stand the test of time. Being with someone for a long period of time allows you to go through different emotions and periods with that person. If your heart has the strength to weather through these different experiences with your lover, then both you and the relationship will grow stronger.

Love doesn't mean that your lover has the responsibility to keep you happy and vice versa. The only person who has the responsibility to make you happy is yourself. While you and your lover can make each other "happier", you shouldn't be solely dependent on each other for happiness. The couples who end up being happy together are made up of individuals who were happy to begin with. Keeping yourself happy is a hard enough responsibility, don't make it harder for yourself by letting another person's happiness be your responsibility too.

Love is sublime. Love gives power. Love gives determination. In love, many lovers do what they could never dream of. Empires have been sacrificed for love. Battles have been fought for love. Love has ruled mankind since ages. Those who experience love are truly lucky. Real love is supportive. Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel.

Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action - true love.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ... Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love is friendship set on fire." - unknown "
Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing." - Goethe "
To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia." - H.L. Mencken
Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside." - Margaret Walker

"Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale... Love loves; this is its nature." - Howard Thurman "

Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end." - Anonymous "Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other." - Rainer Maria Rilke

"Where love is, no room is too small." - Talmud

"Loves makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place." - Zora Neale Hurston "

Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." - Mark Twain

First and foremost focus on yourself. Your dreams, your goals, your truth. Somebody who really loves you will love you even more if you are being your true self. Someone who cannot love you when you follow your excitement is not worth being loved by you! If your husband is angry with you because you take time to achieve your goals, then he is not supportive. If your wife is jealous because you have success and she doesn’t, then that is her problem. Don’t lose yourself, and your love will last. Focus on the reason why YOU are here on earth, make your mission the first priority in your life, and you will be loved for WHO you are. This is real love.

Love yourself, love your dream, love your mission, love your life, and surely enough, a wonderful person will show up and love you even more. What you are able to give to yourself, you will get back thousandfold from the outside world. If you are already in the energy of love, by simply loving yourself, then you will attract love from outside into your life. Make love last by loving yourself first. Love Love Love...

Deepak Chopra- Nature of Love

Michael Jackson... We will Miss YOU

The Leaf and the Tree

When will you learn, myself, to be
a dying leaf on a living tree?
Budding, swelling, growing strong,
Wearing green, but not for long,
Drawing sustenance from air,
That other leaves, and you not there,
May bud, and at the autumn's call
Wearing russet, ready to fall?
Has not this trunk a deed to do
Unguessed by small and tremulous you?
Shall not these branches in the end
To wisdom and the truth ascend?
And the great lightning plunging by
Look sidewise with a golden eye
To glimpse a tree so tall and proud
It sheds its leaves upon a cloud?

Here, I think, is the heart's grief:
The tree, no mightier than the leaf,
Makes firm its root and spreads it crown
And stands; but in the end comes down.
That airy top no boy could climb
Is trodden in a little time
By cattle on their way to drink.
The fluttering thoughts a leaf can think,
That hears the wind and waits its turn,
Have taught it all a tree can learn.
Time can make soft that iron wood.
The tallest trunk that ever stood,
In time, without a dream to keep,
Crawls in beside the root to sleep.
Poem: Edna St Vincent Millay

Romance on a Budget

Romance On A Budget
by: Heidi Richards
Romance isn’t about spending money, it’s about spending time together, spending energy and creativity to attract and keep the relationship exciting and the love alive.
Romance isn't about how much money you lavish on another. It’s about attracting the object of your affection. Romance is about making dreams and fantasies come true. Romance is defined as “an exciting and mysterious quality; a relationship between two lovers.”
It is the “act of making your partner feel loved.” Romance is more than an act, it’s a state of being. It’s the heart, the soul and the mind working together to create an adventure, and increase enthusiasm for one another.

“Romance means intimacy and connection, which means paying attention to detail. It’s making her lunch or giving him a massage. It’s making the bed together and cuddling. It’s holding hands and leaving little “love notes” around the house. It’s touching and feeling and listening and sharing. It’s excitement and serenity, spontaneity and planning. It’s telling the other person what you want, and doing the things the other person likes. It’s connecting deeply.

Romance is about timing, imagination, exploration and creativity. Being Romantic is about…. being creative, being willing to take a risk. Sometimes it’s being sweet. Sometimes it’s being silly. Romance is about … the right attitude. And attitude can cost you a little or a lot. True romantics have the right attitude; and use imagination to cultivate loving, sensual relationships.

So just how do you develop the right attitude? Start out with little acts of affection, little things to show you care and can be romantic. Here are a few suggestions (excerpted from the book, Romance on a Budget) to help you spark your imagination.

- This Kiss (#10) – You must remember this; a kiss is still a kiss… kiss often. Repeat several times.

- Look into My Eyes (#11) – When you gaze into each others eyes, everyone else seems to disappear. And looking intensely at one another can send a message to your lover that can lead to other things.

- You Light up my Life (#15) - Spray the perfume or cologne you wear on a light bulb. When the light is turned on the scent of you will fill the room.

- What a Feeling (#19) – Tell your love how much you appreciate him/her. Write your message on a post-it-note and stick it where it is sure to be found.

- Get out of your Comfort Zone (Intro) – Do something impulsive, even a little risky that will excite your lover and ignite the romance.

Like the song says “Love Don’t come easy.” I believe that “Romance Don’t Come Easy. “ But with a little practice and planning, the results can be thrillllllllling….

What is Love?

One of the most commonly asked questions, What is Love?
What is its exact definition? Well, there can never be a definite answer. Everyone got his or her own answer to it. To some it can be really simple while to others, it can get really complicated.
But one definite thing that is for sure, everybody needs love. It is a basic human need; we are not born into this world to be alone. It has always been our natural instinct as human to reach out to people, to be with and accepted by others.

Consciously or subconsciously, everyone is searching and waiting for that special someone to appear in his or her life.

But where and when will this special someone appear? For all you may know, he or she could be just nearby or even just beside you. It all depends on fate a lot would say. Fate? Well fate is again, something that cannot be explained, something that is always so amazing. Think about it. Among the millions and millions of people who could be out there, why is it that you had somehow met your friends to later become th best of friends? Got retrenched, feeling so terrible and disappointed but to later find your love among your new colleagues in your new job? Life has just suddenly become so beautiful?
Well, this is indeed a very true encounter of a friend of mine. Hmm… thinking about it, isn’t there also kind of a fate between you and me that you are actually reading this article right now? Everything is like all so miraculously arranged, having a reason behind every event that happened.

Do you believe in fate? Personally I definitely do. But again, are we really going to be just sitting around doing nothing, waiting for fate to just come by? Well, I wouldn’t think so. If you are not going to help yourself, who is going to? Fate has always been around us. As long as we are in places where there are people, presence it may be. Many at times, it had actually been there but somehow we just didn’t realized and cherished it when it was there. Sad to know of it, isn't it so? Well, sometimes we were just too obsessed with our works, dreams and nevertheless too high an expectation that we missed to see it, to cherish that someone who was all along just beside us. It is only too late to realize it now, an opportunity won’t drop by twice. Your happiness lies in your own hand, don’t live your life a regret. I am sure you wanna have a life that is so full of fond memories than with tons of regrets, don’t you? Think about it.

Let us just open up ourselves shall we? Everyday is a beautiful day, stop burying yourself with that tons of endless work. Make time for yourself, reach out, make more friends, make new friends, widen up your social circle, live a balanced healthy social life. Make life enjoyable; you will see things in a more different way. You might be going, “Hmm… why is it that all this while, I have never noticed that she is actually such a pretty girl.” Well, in fact this is how true love comes about. It doesn’t always have to be a love at first sight, to be attracted to his or her physical look. Sometimes it is through an initial friendship, enjoying the companion of one another that along time, you discover the beauty of his or her inner human qualities, unknowingly falling in love with the person. Wouldn’t this be a more beautiful and meaningful love than to a love at first sight?

Remember, love has always been a game ever awaiting your participation. Just as in life, it is a game of chance; if you never try you can never win. Well if you did not find your love today, Do not be disappointed. It is just like missing the last boat leaving the dock. There will always be another one to pick you up the next morning? And always will there be.

Why You Need To Constantly Say 'I Love You So Much'

When you enter into a relationship, all you say to your spouse is 'I love you so much'. When you love a person so much, you are willing to do anything for them; to make them happy. 
However, some time down the line the words 'I love you so much' tend to disappear if not fade away. This is mainly because reality has set in and life has to go on as usual. Many think that falling in love will happen like a fairy tale but, reality states otherwise. 
This is not to say that marriage or any other commitment cannot be totally 
blissful but, it is to suggest that a lot needs to be done for 
couples to reach this stage. 

Love is a treasure that needs to be safeguarded. This is the attitude that you are supposed to enter with in any relationship. Love is a beautiful thing but, some give it the ugly face.

Choose to be one of those people who appreciate love for what it really is. When you respect it, you will find the reason for safeguarding it. Saying to your partner 'I love you so much' is very important and you should say it often. This does not just refer to men alone. Women also need to say the words. This is the only way to make the spouse feel appreciated and important. 
There are so many things that make those words fade away. The following are some of the things that cause couples to become estranged. First, commitments to family obligations like children leave barely enough time for spouses to have quality time together. More and more couples have become very busy in this regard at the expense of saying words like 'I love you so much'. It sounds very easy to say the words but couples will tell you that the words can totally disappear.

It you want to have a spouse to come home to at the end of the day, it is vital that you work towards your relationship while you still have time. One thing that spouses forget is that it is the little things that make the most difference. Saying those words is pretty simple and, you can say them from the bottom of your heart and cover for so much. One thing that you should never forget is that, for you to have a strong family, you need to strengthen the love between couples.
This is the only way that a family can share true joy. Saying the words 'I love you so much' will therefore not only build your marriage but, it will build your family. The other thing that can hinder those words from coming out is bitterness. Bitterness comes from many things in a marriage or relationship. Conflicts will always be there and, it does not really matter what the problem is. You need to confront the problems head on and deal with the problem. This way, you will have the chance to say the words without any regrets. You must always find room for forgiveness if you want to move to the next level.

Today is a Beautiful Rainy Day in New York... Romancing in the Rain

Take advantage of a romantic rainy day with your lover, by experiencing new things indoors and out.

The beat of raindrops dancing on the rooftop creates the perfect ambiance to accompany the two of you cuddling, making love, and feeding each other chocolate-covered strawberries.

If you dare, take a step into the weather and enjoy the feel of each  
 drop of rain.

Let yourself be drenched and feel your emotions run high, your heart beat faster, and your sensuality awaken. Whether you spend your rainy days cozy and warm inside or embracing the romance of the showers, the ideas in this article will help you make your rainy day romance something your partner will never forget!

Learn to Trust the Law of Cause and Effect

Mastering Your Mind Power: Learn to Trust the Law of Cause and Effect

Every cause has an effect, and every effect has a cause. How do you determine what is cause and what is effect?

Do you have a role in producing either? If so, just what is your role? If you do not have a role, is there someone or something that plays a role for you in this cause and effect law?

These questions go straight to the heart of every thing and every condition that exists in our world, including ourselves. The rule of thumb that I have learned and use to make the distinction between cause and effect is the following. Anything that exists that is perceptible to the physical senses, i.e., sight, hearing, taste, touch and smell, is in the realm of effect. Generally, all that exists that is not perceptible to the physical senses is in the realm of cause.

All causes that relate to me exist within me, just as I believe all causes that relate to you exist within you. Cause consists of the thoughts, ideas, beliefs, and mental images in my mind, my consciousness. Cause consists of the never ending string of possibilities presented to me in consciousness from which I choose.

By choosing from the possibilities, and making that choice the object of my focus and observation (cause), I know what effect to expect. Here is the rub. If I do not consciously choose from the endless stream of possibilities, I inadvertently, unconsciously make choices (cause) anyway.

By neglecting to consciously make choices of the thoughts ideas, and mental images on which to focus, unconscious choices are made for me, drawn from my past experiences. When the effect of that inadvertent, unconscious choice (cause) comes into my experience (effect) I will likely look at other effects as the cause.

Be forewarned. Occasional, half hearted, focus cannot be viewed as cause and is not likely to change much in your life outcomes. A pound of salt dropped into Lake Michigan is not going to change the lake into a salt water lake. If, however, you direct a powerful stream of salt into the lake over a significant period, it will make noticeable changes in the makeup of the lake.

I trust that you can now see, as I have seen, that mastering your mind power is critical to your success in accessing more of the riches of life. The riches are there for you. It truly does not matter what the conditions of your life have been up to this point.

You can begin now, or continue, to shift your consciousness in the direction of your desires. Make your desires the object of your focus (cause) and you will no longer have to live in fear and worry in relation to the effects you experience.

Once you feel, really feel that you have accepted the object of your focus into your deeper mind (cause) trust the Law of Cause and Effect to do its work. It must produce the desired outcome (effect) if you let it. Do not look out upon the effects around you seeking the appearance of your desire. Each time you look into the world of effects and do not see it, you will likely begin to reinforce your old belief that you DO NOT HAVE IT. You in effect, begin to push your desire away before it can materialize.

This I know for sure. You can claim or re-claim control of your own mind power. You are the most miraculous of all living beings on earth. You are the owner of a mind that is so stupendous, that as you truly begin mastering your mind power and consciously using it, there is no dream that you can dream that you cannot achieve.

Manifesting your desires and goals.

Cosmic Ordering - Order Yourself A New Life!

As we're only too well aware of, the vast majority of the human population is continuously searching for ways to lead better and more fulfilled lives. We constantly strive to acquire all those comforts in life which allow us to feel good about ourselves and while many recipes for success exist, none are quite as good as cosmic ordering.

Exactly what is cosmic ordering? Cosmic ordering, simply put, is a spiritual practice where a person is able to receive exactly what they want from the universe. You ask for, or 'order' something, and it is given to you. While it is true that cosmic ordering is a spiritual practice, don't be dismayed thinking that you have to behave as a saint behaves and only do good deeds in order to reap the rewards of cosmic ordering. While behaving well is a benefit, it is not required.

From a spiritual point of view, cosmic ordering is simply the manifestation of your desires and goals. Whatever you are wanting, whether it's a change in the way you live your life, or whether you want to establish a brighter future, all you need to do, is to order your wishes from the universe.

According to Drs. Deepak Chopra and Wayne Dyer, you must be within your 'field of intent' to successfully place an order with the universe. The field of intent is an energy field, while obviously invisible, connects our spirit to the universe. When this connection is made, our conscious desires are returned.

In all probability, at some stage of your life, you've really wanting something so bad and then as if  magic, you received it and thought what a coincidence it was. Wrong! What you experienced was in fact the power of cosmic ordering working for you.

If you want cosmic ordering to work for, you really have to want what you're asking for. In fact, you have to want it more than anything else and together with this, you need to believe beyond all doubt that you deserve it as well. For this reason we can see why it is said that this entire ordering process depends on the power of your intent.

Do you want a better life? Well, before trying cosmic ordering, ask yourself if you deserve a better life. If your answer is no then cosmic ordering won't work for you because you need to believe you deserve it. If you've answered yes, then go straight ahead and ask because if you know you deserve it, you will be granted your wish.

When compared to the vast amount of alternative recipes for success, cosmic ordering must surely be about the easiest but of course as with so many things in life; cosmic ordering also has its pros and cons. With this process, the biggest obstacle we face is a negative attitude as this brings about negative results.

If you go through your day at work believing that you are about to get fired then sure enough, you are going to lose your job. Spend your time focusing on positive things. Always think about the good things in life that you want and that you deserve.

Many individuals have gone through years of their lives surrounded by unhappiness. They feel that they do not deserve anything better. This feeling of not feeling good enough is deeply ingrained in their personalities. These people will probable never be able to manifest what they truly want.

For some, you may have to dedicate a little time to preparing your subconscious mind because in many cases, it's a person's subconscious mind which is refusing to allow you to believe you deserve anything you want. Perhaps the biggest cause of this is the way in which we are brought up as kids.

It's really not hard to effectively communicate with your subconscious.
Communication can be through self-hypnosis, meditation and affirmations.

Feng Shui Love Symbol- Mandarin Duck

For centuries, Feng Shui has served as a guiding light to many, showing the way to
success, health, and happiness. There are many aspects of this discipline that come into play in determining the state of a home, workplace, or place of business. Even in the manner people perceive love and relationships, Feng Shui items have provided answers. As they have been used and trusted for many years, so are these beliefs held today.

Among the most well-known Feng Shui products that symbolize love and relationships are the Mandarin Ducks, known in Chinese as Yuan-yuang. These magnificent and affectionate creatures have been featured in many Feng Shui enhancers because of how perfectly they represent togetherness, fidelity, and love. When observed in the natural habitat, the male and female Mandarin Duck are always close together, and very rarely will you see one that is all alone. Chinese legend has it that if either one is separated from its mate, the Mandarin Duck will be devastated. It will yearn for its partner, and die from loneliness. In the same way that the Mandarin Duck loves and values its mate, so should the man and woman become in their relationship.

In the realm of Feng Shui products, Mandarin Ducks are commonly used as Feng Shui cures for people who are single, searching for a partner, or are unlucky when it comes to love. Even for married couples, Mandarin Ducks are still popular Feng Shui enhancers to have around the home, as they strengthen the togetherness of the husband and wife, and also help them achieve marital bliss.

As one of the effective Feng Shui remedies for love, devotion, marriage luck, and fidelity, the Feng Shui Mandarin Ducks should be placed in the South West portion of the house, or the South West portion of the bedroom. It has been said that as traditional Feng Shui cures, the Mandarin Ducks allow its owner or anyone near it to emit a strong love chi. This can make you more lovable and more attractive to your potential partner. As for married couples, the strong love chi given by the Mandarin Ducks keeps them happy together, making them love each other more deeply.

My Special Friendship


Do You Believe?
Look into your heart and tell me what you see.
Am I still on your mind; are you thinking of me?
Do you wake in the night and let out a sigh?
Do you whisper my name and wonder why;
I can't be there with you tonight?
With you in my arms, holding you tight?

Do you believe in the miracle of Love
Do you believe in you
Do you believe in Love
Do you believe it could happen to you

Take me in your arms, don't ever leave
With you in my arms, I'll make you believe!
I believe in Love, always and forever.
I believe in us, you and I together.
I can't believe Love is pain,
You have everything to lose and nothing to gain.
Tell me you believe and look into my eyes...
Do you believe... I'm not like the other guys?

Hold on tight, for I've given you my heart;
Heart and soul from the very start.
For your Love, I'll wait forever
With all my heart, I believe we'll be together.
Tell me you believe Love is bliss,
That you can believe in the magic of our first kiss.
Answer me one question, now, before I leave...
Tell me, Do You Believe?
By: Brian Mattes

Friends Forever

I'm sending this poem to show you I care,
To say thank you for being there.
Best friends we'll always be,
In every problem, it's you and me.
Through thick and thin, I won't go away.
And just the same, I hope you'll stay.
As we go through life, things won't change.
Let's not let our friendship rearrange.
I'll make new friends, and so will you,
But we won't split up like others do.
With our friendship staying strong,
We'll be together right or wrong.
Though we might occasionally have a fight,
We'll always make up by the end of the night.
As my best friend, you mean lots to me,
It's a bond you'll always see.
So, in a jam, no need to worry.
I'll be at your side in a hurry.
I know you're there for me too,
I think you know, I'll be there for you!
In life, friends may come and go.
But, there's a special friend you'll always know.
They are there when you need them. No questions asked.
Their love is permanent, it will never pass.
They'll always be with you, leave you never.
And that's why we'll be friends forever!
And if for some reason, we are torn apart,
Remember, you'll always be in my heart.

True Love

 True love. Is it normal

is it serious, is it practical? 
What does the world get from two people 
who exist in a world of their own? 

Placed on the same pedestal for no good reason, 
drawn randomly from millions but convinced 
it had to happen this way - in reward for what? 
For nothing. 
The light descends from nowhere. 
Why on these two and not on others? 
Doesn't this outrage justice? Yes it does. 
Doesn't it disrupt our painstakingly erected principles, 
and cast the moral from the peak? Yes on both accounts. 

Look at the happy couple. 
Couldn't they at least try to hide it, 
fake a little depression for their friends' sake? 
Listen to them laughing - its an insult. 
The language they use - deceptively clear. 
And their little celebrations, rituals, 
the elaborate mutual routines - 
it's obviously a plot behind the human race's back! 

It's hard even to guess how far things might go 
if people start to follow their example. 
What could religion and poetry count on? 
What would be remembered? What renounced? 
Who'd want to stay within bounds? 

True love. Is it really necessary? 
Tact and common sense tell us to pass over it in silence, 
like a scandal in Life's highest circles. 
Perfectly good children are born without its help. 
It couldn't populate the planet in a million years, 
it comes along so rarely. 

Let the people who never find true love 
keep saying that there's no such thing. 

Their faith will make it easier for them to live and die. 

Poet who won the Nobel Prize for Literature

Wislawa Szymborska 

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Internet Dating

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Cyber dating... Kathy and Todd in the Fall of 2006

I had tried love at AOL and met a lot of men... all at local coffee shops so that I would be safe and could decide if it was someone with whom I would be interested in. Nobody ever seemed to be what I was truly looking for.

Then one summer day in 2001 I received a response from an ad that I placed with AOL. It was a guy named Todd who was employed by an airline in a city nearby. He lived about 40 minutes from me and seemed very nice. We emailed for about a week...then he had to leave to help a friend move across the country. I figured I wouldn't hear from him again, although he did send his pic to me and I found him attractive.

Low and behold, he instant messaged me upon his return home about a week later. We made a date to meet on that Sunday coming at a coffee shop in the city I resided. He drove down on his motorcycle and we had breakfast together that morning. I really liked him a lot. He was so kind and such a gentlemen - how refreshing it was!

We took a ride on his motorcycle and ended up about 20 miles away at the ocean. It was fantastic! We shared an ice cream and a wonderful conversation. It was the best day I have had in years. We continued to date and get to know each other. At one point we almost ended our relationship because he failed to tell me that he was married twice before. We worked through that and remained together. After dating for about 13 months we talked about having a child together..he was 35 and I was 37.

Although he was married before neither of those woman were able to give him a child (lucky for me!)..2 months later I found out I was pregnant. We married in January of 2003 and our son was born in June of 2003. We sold both of our properties that we separately owned and bought a home of our own in the next state over from where we met. We are going strong and so much in love.

My oldest son is 14yrd old now and happy to have a little brother. My little guy is 3 yrs old and would steal your heart. I am so happy that "cyber dating" existed  I do tell people that you must be so careful and play smart, but your prince charming may only be an instant message away!


True friend

I Miss YOU